Dealing with Rejection

Q: i ask this guy out and he said no. after that i thought he just said no because he didn't know me so i ask him on a date. my question is did i do something wrong?

A: You did nothing wrong. Women tend to find answers as to why they were rejected in one way or another. If she can't get the answers, she starts to assume that there must be something wrong with her. Why must you torture yourself on this? Don't take his rejection personally. Respect his decision and move on, go out and be the strongest that you can be. Remember that it is impossible for everyone to say �yes� to everything, but someone out there will say �yes� to you.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: I like a girl very much. I saw her one day in my Univ campus, found out her mail id and added her on YM and chatted her for some days.then she gave me her cell number and I call her now and talk sometimes. Umm ... but she never gives me a call and doesnt even reply to my sms. but she talks to me whenever I call her and she talks pretty nicely. I was thinking of askin her out coz we have never met. But I am afraid that may she will refuse. IS there any way how i can attract her to me?? and i am still confused coz she gives mixed signals.

A: Dont be afraid to take a risk. First, have a plan in mind. Call her when you have a definite plan and time for the date. Have a friendly conversation before to ask her out. After talking for a few minutes, ask something like "I was thinking of going see a movie next weekend, would you like to come?" or "Would you like to get a drink together"? Just be confident and be yourself! If she likes you she will go out on a date with you. If she says no, ask if there is a scheduling conflict or if she is simply not interested to go out with you.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: There is this girl in my class I like I have talked to her a couple times and she has responed and said hi back to me I would like to get to know her and ask her out eventually how should I go about doing this and should I ask her out or talk to her more and if so about what

A: Get to know her. Find out about the activities and hobbies she likes. The more you know about her interests, the more things you will have to talk about. Approach this girl and engage her in friendly conversation. Say "Hi", tell her your name and compliment her. Ask her out for something specific if she's demonstrating interest. Maybe for a movie, or a hike in the park. Remember, when you are ready to ask her out, just find the right time and place to ask.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: I have a gal at my workplace, we both are on same floor but different processes, we are completely strangers for each others except for the fact that we are on same floor, I like her n want to ask her out but I dont want rejection, I want her to accept, so I want to know how do I approach her n how do I ask her out without getting to hear no, so I need help regarding that

A: Asking a girl out is one of the hardest things to do. By doing this you are letting yourself become vulnerable to rejection. The worst thing can happen is that she say no. Everyone gets rejected one time in their life. But, if you dont ask her out you will never know if she could say yes. The first thing you need to do is figure out what you want to ask the girl out for. Your choice will be important because she might actually want to go out with you, but she might just not be interested in the activity you chose. Approach her, Say "Hi" and compliment her. However, try to avoid complimenting her skirt or dress, she'll think you're staring. After you have been talking for a while, say something like "Let's get take a coffee together." If she is interested, she will respond in the positive, but also her tone will be positive. Remember, be yourself and confident.

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How to Ask a Girl to a High School Graduation Party

Q: my question is how to date in a graduation high school party the girl who me i love

A: Make sure the girl you want to ask is not taken! Choose a quiet location and an appropriate time to ask the question. Come right out and ask her, "Do you go to the graduation party?" If she give you a positive answer ask her "Would you like we go to the graduation party together?" If you don't really know her try talking to her more before the party. Find out her interests and what kind of things you have in common. Remember, sometimes a "no" is inevitable. It happens to everyone. The best thing to do is to smile at her and tell her you understand.

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How to Ask Someone on a Date

Q: i recently received a phone call and it was the wrong number. i made some silly jokes to her (heather) and called her back about 30 minutes later. well she asked me if she could call me and she did later that night. we have now talked on the phone for a few days now. and im confused about what my next move should be. i just recently seperated from my wife after 10 years and im out of touch with the new world of dating. I have no idea what heather looks like and my mind is going crazy. i havent felt this way in a very long time. any suggestions? i do not want to be shallow if im not attracted to her. please help

A: if you want to go out with her, call her and ask her out. Have a plan in mind; know your schedule and have an idea to suggest. Meet casually for a brief time. If that goes well, suggest a more formal date. A first date should be something that you like to do. Do not pick something you hate just because you think your partner will enjoy it.

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How to Find a Chat Room for Dating

Q: Is it impossible to find a date through the chat rooms?

A: Online dating has unlimited possibilities. You should search on major search engine such as Google, Yahoo! or MSN, then find a room where the people are friendly and their interests are similar to yours. You should read their personal profiles and avoid rooms where sexual comments.

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Overcoming Shyness

Q: Iv'e got sord of a complicated question. Here's the deal I am very interested in this young lady that works at my local bank. A couple of years ago she flirted with me and although I welcomed her attention I did not pursue her for two reasons. The first reason, I was not ready for a relationship at the time. The second reason which prevents me from meeting many women is that I am shy and often cannot think of what to say to connect with women. To make a long story short now I am ready for a relationship however I am still very shy. The dilemma I am facing with this young lady is after she flirted with me a couple of years ago I never really said much to her since then because of my shyness. I see her at the bank at least once a week and we make eye contact sometimes but we rarely speak. The main reason why we don't speak is because I try to cover up my shyness by acting like I don't care. But even though we hardly speak I don't get the impression that she would totally reject me if I mustered up the courage to talk to her, I feel like she has at least left the door cracked. I still believe she is attracted to me but at this point I just don't know how to approach her since it's been two years since she really showed clear interest in me. I like her disposition so much I am not willing to let my shyness cripple me this time, but at this point what do I say to her? how do I approach her? Will she think I'm weak because I waited so long to approach her? Or maybe by now she has a boy friend. It just feels akward. Please Sania give some advice as to how I can go about this. I also want to mention that I do not come in direct contact with her because she is not a teller at the bank she is often behind a desk busy with customers which even makes it more difficult to approach her. Any suggestions or advice would be very helpful. Thanks, Lamar

A: Getting over one's shyness may be tough but it is possible. Try leaving her a note inviting her for a drink or coffee after work. Put in the note that you would be disappointed if she could not make it. If you are having trouble holding a conversation with her, you could start by giving her an honest compliment. You have to find a common ground in which to begin. Start with a talking point like sports, movies, books, favorite class, whatever the two of you find interesting and go from there. Make yourself feel confident. Good luck!

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What to Wear on a First Date

Q: What should you wear on a 1st date?

A: You should dress neatly. Wear clothes that fit you well and show off your best assets. The key to dressing for a date is to let your personality shine through. Another thing to remember when getting ready for a first date is that you should get a haircut and be sure to shave.