How to Have the Talk

Before you utter "Honey, we have to...," crib our convo notes. You can charm the pants off anyone with your finely honed sugar lips and defuse most potentially deadly showdowns with your razor-sharp wit. Still, somehow, when it comes time to initiate the relationship conversation, none of that makes a damn difference. You're left tongue-tied and nerve-racked. That's because that couple-status report inevitably puts you in the cliched nagging-woman-pointing-at-her-stopwatch position -- and him on the utmost defensive. Someone is bound to get freaked out, hurt or misled. Which is why we're here to help. Because the check-in is a necessary milestone in any growing relationship, you'll have to face the music at some point. We've come up with a plan for making the commitment conversation a lot easier on both of you -- and it's actually effective.

Flirt and Making Acquaintance

How to make acquaintance with an unfamiliar woman or man? It’s a perpetual problem. The article of the onlinedatingtip.com offers a few tips for people who are looking for their partner, how to attract the picked “victim’s” attention…

Walking in the midtown may become an adventure
Take a walk in the city center on a Saturday afternoon. Disguise yourself as a tourist and take a camera with you. If you don’t have one, borrow or buy a cheap disposable camera. If you catch sight of somebody you like turn to her and ask her to take a photo of you in front of a show-place but in a way that she’ll take the photo of you and not the background. Carry on and ask her if you could take a picture of her. This way you create an opportunity for a conversation. It might turn out that she is also alone and offers you to be your guide. The camera method has another advantage: it urges you to visit romantic places, museums, parks, where lots of singles spend their weekend afternoons. According to a professional photographer he is always successful in making interesting acquaintances if he has his camera with him. At the age of modern automatic cameras you don’t have to be a professional: take a snapshot of somebody and flirt with her.

Flirting at the university
You can attend either the lectures at the university or only the canteen, you’ll be able to flirt. University is a good place for flirting, because of the fact that a number of people gather there. If you catch sight of someone who interests you, simply ask her what lectures she attends. “Which year are you in? Do you have a determinate plan or do you study for the sake of entertainment?” The repertory of questions is infinite. You can recommend that you take a coffee break or go to library together. You may tell her how splendid books you have at home and ask her if she feels like looking at them.

Flirt while waiting line
The situation is advantageous because the ones in front of and behind you are waiting to see the same play, movie or exhibition as you. So the topic of the conversation is given. For example if you are waiting outside the movies you can turn to the lucky ones like this: “Have you heard what the director did at the premier?” At the end you’ll be sitting next to your new acquaintance at eat popcorn from the same bag.

Flirt in a cafe
At the table next to yours a pretty woman is reading her newspaper. Ask her if there’s something interesting in it. Her answer will probably be negative, for which you may reply: “Don’t you think that there should be a paper in which there are only good pieces of news?” This strategy can be applied on the way around as well, you can read out the titles or a few lines of the editorial to the lonely man sitting at the next table. Go to the café on Sunday mornings, it’s a convenient time to talk about life’s things.

Flirt in the park
You’re in a beautiful park, there are trees and birds, light and shade around you’re solving cross-words sitting on a bench. When you look up cogitatively you observe a handsome man rubbernecking on the other half of the bench. Mutter silently: “Hm … Aztecan sun-god … seven letters down.” Then turn directly to the attractive stranger: “Don’t you happen to know what the name of the Aztecan sun-god might be? Seven letters.” After you excited his curiosity he’ll approach you and your cross-words. You’re in for it. It’s going to be a pleasant afternoon. To your next walk in the park take some bird seeds with you. If you catch sight of a pretty passer-by, sprinkle some seeds toward her. Birds will troop around her, that’s for sure. Walk to her with an innocent face and address her: “It seems birds like you … And I know why!” Smile at her and introduce yourself to her. This is also a successful method!

If you go to the museum…
…don’t forget to visit the gift-shop or the restaurant of the museum. You can do other things as well in a museum than watching exhibition cases. Some people go there to have coffee. Why don’t you follow their example? It’s easy to enter upon a conversation. Topics seem to offer themselves: you can converse on the exhibits, artists, the building of the museum. Don’t forget about the gift-shop: it’s easy to make new friends among the many bric-a-bracs.

Exploit the intervals
If you go to theater, opera, to your favorite actor’s performance, don’t stay at your place during the intervals, but go to the lounge for a drink or a cake. If the audience are squeezing toward the buffet, step forward and take part in the conversation. The topic will probably be on today’s play or previous plays. Test your communicative skills and narrate a few stories about the lives of the scenic heroes: it’s possible that by the end of the play you’ll have shared the cheerful atmosphere of the play with your own hero/heroine.

The best place at a party is by the bar or the buffet
Why? Because people looking for some food or drink come and go all the time. If the clambake is held in a hotel you can relocate your residence next to the cloakroom, because the circulation is reasonable there as well: people longing for some fresh air or fleeting the tumult or even looking for love – it’s possible that you make new friends there. If you encounter some boring woman leave her with some polite excuse and find another busy place. Perhaps you should look around one more time before. Remember, you have decided to get to know as many people as possible tonight! If you encounter somebody you find attractive smile at her and ask her: “Wouldn’t you like to continue this conversation during dinner on Tuesday?” observe what type you deal with, what may interest her, use your illusions to suggest something that she will presumably accept. Dancing marathon? Marathon race? Old horror movies? Your attentiveness and politeness will surely attract your new acquaintance’s attention and curiosity and will be all afire with the desire to see you again. With your empressement and cordiality you will attract people wherever you may be.

Eat at the dining car if you’re traveling on a train
You can pack food for the trip and mumble on it alone, but why don’t you visit the dining car? Traveling may seem shorter there and you’ll have a great time, especially if you encounter interesting people. Perhaps your future one-and-only is traveling on exactly this train with you.

Dating Smarts You Must Have

There's so much potential for disaster, they should call it playing the

* First rule: Chemistry trumps all. Even if he talked too much about his hybrid car or had T-bone steak in his teeth the whole time, if his kiss made you melt, he gets a second date.
* On the flip side, we don't care if he's the hottest, richest, funniest, Orlando Bloomiest man ever. If smooching him gives you the creeps, cut your losses.
* After you finally hook up with a guy you found online in a coffee joint, it's fine to tell your friends "We met at a coffee joint." It's not even a lie (sort of)!
* You get to be superficial. If he's wearing a fanny pack or showing off butt cleavage, feign an emergency and bail. (Hint: Say "It's a woman thing." He won't ask for details.)
* A Cosmo girl doesn't go out with her ex-boyfriend's work rival just so it'll get back to him and make him crazy. She does go out with his work rival though if she had a crush on him anyway.
* A man who makes every conversation sexual from the get-go isn't trying to seduce you, he's trying to shock you. Don't take the bait. Your job isn't to prove to him that you can be one of the guys; it's his job to be a gentleman.
* Any time a friend offers to set you up, make sure to ask her what she thinks you have in common with the guy -- besides that you're both single.
* Heads up: If he spends even part of the evening responding to work emails on his crackberry, he probably wouldn't make the most attentive boyfriend.
* Then again, if you spend even part of the evening on emails, don't expect him to call for a second date.
* Beware the boor who asks questions just so that he can give answers. Him: "What's the coolest place you've ever traveled to?" You: "Oh, probably Mex--" Him: "My favorites are Africa, London, Iceland, Costa Rica...."
* Lots of people are between jobs, but a guy who cites The Man as his reason for it may be in arrested development.
* If the next day you can't remember anything interesting or clever he said and you guys weren't drinking, you're probably not that into him.
* Maybe he's just being polite, but when a guy offers you a breath mint, always take it, just in case.
* Dating is supposed to be fun, not a chore. If you find yourself daydreaming middate about watching Law and Order reruns at home, give yourself a break.
* If you've had a good time, compliment his planning ("I loved playing air hockey!"). It subtly invites him to call for date two and gives him a chance to ask right then, if he's bold.
* Don't stress that first-kiss moment. Smile, say good-bye, and squeeze his hand, letting your fingers linger. He'll either make a move or he won't, and you'll get an awkwardness-free exit.
* Another sexy way to make him ache for date two? Casually comment on his good-night kiss, like "Mmm, you're good at that." He won't stop wondering what other talents of his you'll like.

The Trick to Meeting Guys

Finding a date-worthy man is tough, but you could be making it harder on yourself. Here, five common goofs.

By Jennifer Benjamin

Photo: Anna Palma
You're hot, you're fun, you have a cool job and a big circle of friends — in other words, you're the whole package. Then why the hell can't you meet a guy? "Often, women subconsciously give off 'keep away' signals," says psychotherapist Rhonda Findling, author of The Dating Cure. Well, we've pinpointed some of the mistakes you might be making and found ways for you to remedy the situation ASAP. You hang with a big group of girls. When going on a manhunt, you may feel better bringing backup. Problem is, surrounding yourself with a posse makes you unapproachable. "It's intimidating for a guy," says Findling. "He's afraid of being rejected in front of an audience." To make yourself available, go out with just one wingwoman or separate from the crew and work the room solo.

Dealing with Rejection

Q: i ask this guy out and he said no. after that i thought he just said no because he didn't know me so i ask him on a date. my question is did i do something wrong?

A: You did nothing wrong. Women tend to find answers as to why they were rejected in one way or another. If she can't get the answers, she starts to assume that there must be something wrong with her. Why must you torture yourself on this? Don't take his rejection personally. Respect his decision and move on, go out and be the strongest that you can be. Remember that it is impossible for everyone to say �yes� to everything, but someone out there will say �yes� to you.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: I like a girl very much. I saw her one day in my Univ campus, found out her mail id and added her on YM and chatted her for some days.then she gave me her cell number and I call her now and talk sometimes. Umm ... but she never gives me a call and doesnt even reply to my sms. but she talks to me whenever I call her and she talks pretty nicely. I was thinking of askin her out coz we have never met. But I am afraid that may she will refuse. IS there any way how i can attract her to me?? and i am still confused coz she gives mixed signals.

A: Dont be afraid to take a risk. First, have a plan in mind. Call her when you have a definite plan and time for the date. Have a friendly conversation before to ask her out. After talking for a few minutes, ask something like "I was thinking of going see a movie next weekend, would you like to come?" or "Would you like to get a drink together"? Just be confident and be yourself! If she likes you she will go out on a date with you. If she says no, ask if there is a scheduling conflict or if she is simply not interested to go out with you.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: There is this girl in my class I like I have talked to her a couple times and she has responed and said hi back to me I would like to get to know her and ask her out eventually how should I go about doing this and should I ask her out or talk to her more and if so about what

A: Get to know her. Find out about the activities and hobbies she likes. The more you know about her interests, the more things you will have to talk about. Approach this girl and engage her in friendly conversation. Say "Hi", tell her your name and compliment her. Ask her out for something specific if she's demonstrating interest. Maybe for a movie, or a hike in the park. Remember, when you are ready to ask her out, just find the right time and place to ask.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: I have a gal at my workplace, we both are on same floor but different processes, we are completely strangers for each others except for the fact that we are on same floor, I like her n want to ask her out but I dont want rejection, I want her to accept, so I want to know how do I approach her n how do I ask her out without getting to hear no, so I need help regarding that

A: Asking a girl out is one of the hardest things to do. By doing this you are letting yourself become vulnerable to rejection. The worst thing can happen is that she say no. Everyone gets rejected one time in their life. But, if you dont ask her out you will never know if she could say yes. The first thing you need to do is figure out what you want to ask the girl out for. Your choice will be important because she might actually want to go out with you, but she might just not be interested in the activity you chose. Approach her, Say "Hi" and compliment her. However, try to avoid complimenting her skirt or dress, she'll think you're staring. After you have been talking for a while, say something like "Let's get take a coffee together." If she is interested, she will respond in the positive, but also her tone will be positive. Remember, be yourself and confident.

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How to Ask a Girl to a High School Graduation Party

Q: my question is how to date in a graduation high school party the girl who me i love

A: Make sure the girl you want to ask is not taken! Choose a quiet location and an appropriate time to ask the question. Come right out and ask her, "Do you go to the graduation party?" If she give you a positive answer ask her "Would you like we go to the graduation party together?" If you don't really know her try talking to her more before the party. Find out her interests and what kind of things you have in common. Remember, sometimes a "no" is inevitable. It happens to everyone. The best thing to do is to smile at her and tell her you understand.

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How to Ask Someone on a Date

Q: i recently received a phone call and it was the wrong number. i made some silly jokes to her (heather) and called her back about 30 minutes later. well she asked me if she could call me and she did later that night. we have now talked on the phone for a few days now. and im confused about what my next move should be. i just recently seperated from my wife after 10 years and im out of touch with the new world of dating. I have no idea what heather looks like and my mind is going crazy. i havent felt this way in a very long time. any suggestions? i do not want to be shallow if im not attracted to her. please help

A: if you want to go out with her, call her and ask her out. Have a plan in mind; know your schedule and have an idea to suggest. Meet casually for a brief time. If that goes well, suggest a more formal date. A first date should be something that you like to do. Do not pick something you hate just because you think your partner will enjoy it.

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How to Find a Chat Room for Dating

Q: Is it impossible to find a date through the chat rooms?

A: Online dating has unlimited possibilities. You should search on major search engine such as Google, Yahoo! or MSN, then find a room where the people are friendly and their interests are similar to yours. You should read their personal profiles and avoid rooms where sexual comments.

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Overcoming Shyness

Q: Iv'e got sord of a complicated question. Here's the deal I am very interested in this young lady that works at my local bank. A couple of years ago she flirted with me and although I welcomed her attention I did not pursue her for two reasons. The first reason, I was not ready for a relationship at the time. The second reason which prevents me from meeting many women is that I am shy and often cannot think of what to say to connect with women. To make a long story short now I am ready for a relationship however I am still very shy. The dilemma I am facing with this young lady is after she flirted with me a couple of years ago I never really said much to her since then because of my shyness. I see her at the bank at least once a week and we make eye contact sometimes but we rarely speak. The main reason why we don't speak is because I try to cover up my shyness by acting like I don't care. But even though we hardly speak I don't get the impression that she would totally reject me if I mustered up the courage to talk to her, I feel like she has at least left the door cracked. I still believe she is attracted to me but at this point I just don't know how to approach her since it's been two years since she really showed clear interest in me. I like her disposition so much I am not willing to let my shyness cripple me this time, but at this point what do I say to her? how do I approach her? Will she think I'm weak because I waited so long to approach her? Or maybe by now she has a boy friend. It just feels akward. Please Sania give some advice as to how I can go about this. I also want to mention that I do not come in direct contact with her because she is not a teller at the bank she is often behind a desk busy with customers which even makes it more difficult to approach her. Any suggestions or advice would be very helpful. Thanks, Lamar

A: Getting over one's shyness may be tough but it is possible. Try leaving her a note inviting her for a drink or coffee after work. Put in the note that you would be disappointed if she could not make it. If you are having trouble holding a conversation with her, you could start by giving her an honest compliment. You have to find a common ground in which to begin. Start with a talking point like sports, movies, books, favorite class, whatever the two of you find interesting and go from there. Make yourself feel confident. Good luck!

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What to Wear on a First Date

Q: What should you wear on a 1st date?

A: You should dress neatly. Wear clothes that fit you well and show off your best assets. The key to dressing for a date is to let your personality shine through. Another thing to remember when getting ready for a first date is that you should get a haircut and be sure to shave.

Creative Date Ideas

Q: I am single again after 4 1/2 years of marriage (and an amicable divorce). I have not dated in seven years and want to change my approach to attracting and dating women. What can I suggest besides the trite "movie" and "dinner" options?

A: A simple but unusual date can be going to an art museum, or gallery opening. Go hiking or on a bike ride. Go on the beach and bring a picnic. Play miniature golf or visit the zoo. Try a new hobby together. You could also consider taking lessons in something that you both enjoy.

Asking Someone Out

Q: i love her but i have never talked to her. she is from a diffrent college from mine and i only have her email adress. she is too chritian and very reserved. also, sh is always bussy coz of the prg she is taking. i ned her for a serious relationship.

A: Even if a girl is busy, there would still be time for her to spend time with you especially if she is interested in you. Send her an e-mail introducing yourself. If it's possible, try chatting with her on line and exchanging photos of yourself so she would have an idea of what you look like. Once she feels acquainted with you, try asking her out by suggesting and avoiding asking questions that would lead to a yes-or-no answer. For instance, �We should check that new cafe sometime.� Check for her most available schedule and have all of your date planned out. The date would greatly depend on her schooling; it could either be a weekend at the movies or a quick lunch by the campus cafe. Try to sense if she is interested in you, and perhaps this date could lead to a serious relationship. However, the problem of not having enough time for each other would greatly detriment your relationship. Keep in mind to respect each other's schedule, but still try to find time to meet up. Good luck!

Ask a Guy Out

Q: I really like this guy but I dont know if he likes me and he really cute.but i choke when i talk to him.So what should i do?

A: First, make eye contact with him. If he makes eye contact back, he's probably interested in you. Then, walk up to him and introduce yourself. Break the ice by commenting on something he's wearing or saying something about the place you're at. Ask him questions about himself, such as what kinds of things he likes to do, or if he likes to play sports. If he seems receptive when you introduce yourself, pop the question. This is your chance to ask him out. If you don�t want to ask for a date initially, ask for his email or phone number. You can arrange to meet him later. To make things a easier on yourself, plan an activity with a group of friends and invite him along. Just tell him that you and some friends are getting together and you were wondering if he would like to join you. Remember, many guys are too afraid to walk up to a girl and ask her out.

Ask A Girl On A Date

Q: I have 1 question, reasonly my friend intro one gal to me. We have a good time play badminton together with her friends but still not yet start go out with her. I feel i am really disappointed myself. I keep thinking she might have. She and her friend open a cafe which is western style. But i wanted to call her but she is kind of busy and business minded. I was thinking wanted ask her out during day off satrting from today but she dont know she interested or not. Do you think should i go or not?

A: Never be afraid to ask for what you want. You could show up at the coffee shop, hopefully you like coffee, when she is not busy with customers, ask her how much free time she has. Ask her what her schedule is like. Then ask her do you work a lot of nights? Cook her dinner, or have dinner made and eat in. If not, then you ask her if you could wait on her for one evening since she waits on other people all day.

Flirting Body language

Even the ancients claimed that you have to pay attention to a woman’s gestures instead of what she says. Generally if a lady says “yes” she of course means “no”. And the situation is the same on the way around.

A gesture is a gesture
Body language is a discipline about non-verbal behavior, there are more and more followers of it all over the world. Among them there are respected scientists who attach less and less significance to words and places the emphasis in communication on the role of body language. Reportedly this way it is possible to tell much more and even to learn much more information about the partner. Gestures, body language and intonation affect the communication at a proportion of more than 90%. Words as such prove to be insufficient in a successful communication. It seems to be simple, but despite this fact there are still a great number of inapprehensive men. They don’t pay attention to the women’s behavior, swallow every word they say, and muck up the opportunity of further developing their acquaintances. But women’s gestures are univocal! The experts of non-verbal behavior can only distinguish two types of women’s behavior. One carries the information that the woman does not feel like having sex. The other one means that she does. So women exploit body language and launch such codes that men have a very difficult job to tell what they are thinking of in fact. It would be so palpable to tell everything using words. I’ll try to help you avoid misunderstandings: I’ve put together a guide with the help of which beginners and “advanced users” are able to decode the behavior of every attractive woman.

1. She pushes her fingers through her hair
Clean and neat hair is as important for a woman as acceptable height, wide shoulders and biceps for a man. The woman who grooms her hair with high care expresses that she is full of energy and feels like doing certain family-friendly activities. Those that are familiar with body language claim that when a woman is regulating her hair she tries to call men’s attention upon herself. If she repeats this activity three times within a minute you can be sure that she would really love to be conquered. The way she touches her hair is also very important. It tells you information about her temperament. If she does it slowly you have encountered a cunning expert of the art of love. Quick, nervy movements disclose impatience or embarrassment.

2. She touches the edge of the glass with her fingers
Freudian psychologists interpret it as a sexual sign. This theory is supported by the women themselves, who claim that they deliberately pet the glass, in order to call the chosen man’s attention upon themselves. When you enter a bar and see a full-bosomed blonde touching and caressing her martini glass so that it’d scream, do not think that she is expressing her musicality this way. Don’t ask her whether she is playing the latest hit of Iglesias. This question would not be appropriate. Instead of asking stupid questions, notice the way she is playing the “musical instrument”. Elegant, caressing movement is a sign of intrinsic calmness, self-control and waiting, so sit by her. Her beating a rhythm on the glass with her nails is a sign of impatience or a broad hint of SOS, which she’s sending to her boyfriend, who is fighting for another Bailey’s at the bar.

3. She leans on her elbow
According to Aristotle a woman’s hand tells us the most information. According to experts of body language women disclose what they think of us with their gestures. If she leans on her hand with her chin and her eyes seem to be thinking, it’s not always the sign of her being impressed by your appearance. Generally the woman tries to answer her own question this way: “Does this guy deserve me?” You do know the answer, but the lady needs time. If you want to help her make the only right decision, be politely determinate and determinately polite. Flash your sense of humor as well.

4. She sits back with her arms crossed together
This is the worst possible that you can encounter in a bar or disco, when you’re out hunting. This gesture is the evidence of the fact that you’ve had the worst impression of all on the woman and she doesn’t trust you at all. Nothing helps here, neither refined jokes, nor nice, muscular body. The best method at the beginning of the fight for her grace is to ask her what she’s drinking at the moment. Don’t buy her a drink for a start because this way she’s going to think that “this guy has no fantasy at all”.

5. She wets her lips
If a woman wets her lips quite frequently, it’s absolutely a sexual sign, unless she has herpes. According to anthropologists women give us to understand that they wouldn’t mind us putting something between their wet lips. Hope you know what.

6. She delves in her nose
You’re wrong if you think that this is a sign of her sexual appetite. Scientist have been arguing for years about the meaning of this gesture. According to one group of scientists the lady is underbred. On the other hand the other group thinks the finger in the nose symbolizes the gross hairs of the thighs and lap.

7. She lashes her eye-lashes
According to famous experts of the topic and authors of cheap romantic stories the fast movement of the eye-lashes is the sign of women who like to conquer men of their own accord. Besides they are emancipated, who like to take over the duty of initiation. They aren’t waiting for your jokes and wide smile. They undertake to initiate. The only problem with such ladies is that not all of them will enjoy herself in the role of the doped out game. But if you don’t mind losing the role of the hunter, swallow the bait.

8. She lets her legs swing
Researchers of body language emphasize that when a woman frequently crosses her legs or let them swing, is also a sexually charged movement. The strongest of all these movements is when she opens her legs without meaning it. It’s a classical Freudian opening symbol. (You must remember Sharon Stone opening her legs in such a beautiful way in Basic Instinct.) A contrary sign to this is when she puts her legs together. You have to interpret her choosing of shoes in a similar way. It is very important which pair of shoes she chooses to wear the given day. The more open the shoes are the more willing she is to “open”.

9. She dances with her hands
Having gauged the woman’s face and body most men concentrates on her hands. This is the most natural and normal thing to do – well-groomed long fingers, well-painted nails are significant erotic signs. However, the way the woman herself thinks of her hands is also very important. If she stares at them for a very long time, it may imply that something angers her (perhaps you?). if she beats the rhythm on the table or the bar means a similar state of mind. You think she’s a wild cat, but you’re wrong. She’s thinking about a way how she could get rid of you.

10. She bites her lips
When a woman is biting your lips, do not interrupt her – everything’s alright. But if she’s biting hers, you may assume that she’s nervous. Why? Perhaps you are staring at her too quizzing.

+1 Finally
From the paragraphs above you can see that each and every movement and gesture of a woman carry sexual meaning for a healthy man.

Feel her soul
You look at the woman and you don’t have the least idea what she wants from you. If you notice one of the hereunder mentioned ways of behavior, it means that there’s one thing that she wants from you, closer acquaintance, or even maybe sex.

She leers at you, laughs loudly, ogles, wets her lips, knobs her breasts or hip, listens to you very carefully, walks proudly, waves her hip, her style is eye-catching, crosses her legs and then puts them back, hides her face, pushes her fingers through her hair, enters your private area, touches herself (smoothes out her stocking or plays with the button of her blouse), touches the object of her interest, exaggerates her make-up or perfume, dresses up too elegant, whispers or tries to create an intimate environment some other way, stares at you too intensively, gauges you with her eyes and tries to stay tête-à-tête with you.

The kiss

This is a brief description of "How To Kiss"

What a girl wants
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How kissing started
How to do the basics...and beyond

Women want to kiss for the shear pleasure of kissing!!!

Ever wondered if there was a better way to be kissing? Try our tips and you will certainly see the difference.

The first thing to do when kissing is RELAX. Think about nothing at all but the kiss you're giving.

Start with lips either just slightly parted or closed. No tongue! Relax your lips, but don't let them mush up. Allow yourself to feel like you are completely confident in what you are doing. It makes the world of difference.

Kiss like there is nothing you would like to do than be right there with your love kissing them.

Use your hands. Use them in non-erotic zones, like the back, the shoulders, and the arms. Another great place is the back of the neck with light massage to the head.

Make it romantic. Kissing one of the most romantic things you can do. Try not to make it always sexual.

Pretend it's the first time you've ever kissed this person.

Try something different. A good place to start is "The Daily Smooch" . Each day you will discover a new way to kiss.

Always end a kiss with a small soft kiss.

How To Overcome First-Kiss Jitters

Arrange to have that first kiss in a fun or playful way. Just as a spur of the moment kiss. Or, under the mistletoe. Have the first kiss in a non-threatening way.
Get close enough to the other person so that your feelings take control. Get within kissing distance, one foot or less. Get so close you can feel their body heat.
Simply ask for the kiss.
Most men say they take their cue about kissing from the woman, usually from observing her behavior toward them. You can often tell if a man wants to kiss you by looking at his eyes; if he's staring at your mouth he's ready to kiss you. When you see him staring at your mouth, stop whatever you're doing and look dreamily at him, and usually he'll take the hint and kiss you.
Relax and enjoy. There's no correct way to kiss, so don't worry about doing anything wrong.

Just do it. It's trial and error.

Don't think about it, just do it.

How long has kissing been around?

Surprisingly, there is very little information on kissing to answer this question. Kissing may have its roots in early religious rituals. Some claim the existence of an early religious belief that the air we exhale had a magical power and contained one's soul. During the religious ceremonies, participants used a form of the mouth kiss to exchange breath. The kiss could also be a refinement of nose rubbing. But of all the theories on the origins of kissing, the one that gets the most votes from researchers is as follows: It may be a natural evolution from our birth instinct to suck our mothers breast for nourishment. Or, to put it in another way, it is simply a continuation of our desire to be breast-fed. So, what this theory says is that kissing is nothing more than satisfying a feeling of hunger. The truth of the matter is that any theory is merely speculation.

Credit for developing the kiss into a romantic gesture is given to the country of India. At approx. 1500 B.C. the Kamasutra was created. Kissing occurred in the Roman Empire at the nuptial kiss at the alter. It was said to symbolize the union of man and woman as they exchanged "the breath of life." During medieval times in Europe, you kissed on the ground or on the foot of religious figures. This is where the phrase "I kiss the ground you walk on" originates.

One French law declared that a woman was guilty of adultery if she kissed or allowed herself to be kissed by any man other than her husband. An Italian law said if a man kissed a girl in public, he could become obligated to marry her. Also, the kiss was used to seal legal contracts between men. Thos who could not sign their name would draw an "X" on the signature line and then kiss it. This would then make a binding contract.

The term "French Kiss" came into the English language in 1923. It was actually considered a slang term or slur on the French culture, which was thought to be overly concerned with sexual matters.

The First Kiss-in a lifetime of shear bliss

The goal; is to deliver an impressive first kiss and avoid any awkward moments. There is no right way to kiss or to have your first kiss be a complete success. We have given you the basics, it's up to you to provide the enthusiasm and dedication to be a truly great kisser.

You know you want to kiss someone because you have been thinking about it for most of the evening. Unless the lucky person is a mind reader, nothing will happen until you make the first move.
Try either holding the person's hand, walking arm-in-arm, sitting close, offering a neck massage. If you sense disapproval, smile, stop what your doing and start a light conversation. You have not put yourself in a scary position. Reevaluate the situation.
If he/she is responding positively to your touching, the next step is to position yourself so that you'll feel comfortable kissing your partner. if you choose to hold your partner, make it non-threatening.
Try establishing eye contact. If eye contact is sustained, move to the next step.
If you feel comfortable and have eye contact now is the time to move in for your kiss. As you move closer check to see if they are moving closer to you. If not move back a little to re-examine the situation.
With a positive response from your partner, it's time to have that romantic kiss. Remember, no tongue.
I f you initiated the kiss, you should be the one to end the kiss. Don't do it abruptly, just move away slowly and kiss again. If your partner seems hesitant, just stop.
The French Kiss

You have been kissing for awhile, it is time to try the "French Kiss". Gently touch your partners lips with your tongue. If you meet resistance, stop and continue kissing. If you meet resistance it doesn't mean rejection, it could be that they want you to hold back for now. Many women don't want to kiss during the first kiss. They want to get to know you better. If there isn't any resistance, go ahead and enjoy the moment. Always French Kiss slowly at first and pick up intensity as you get caught up in the moment. Feel your partners tongue with yours in a gentle and caring way. Never end a session of French Kissing abruptly, always kiss your partner with a soft, tender kiss. Future kisses will never be the same as the first, make every effort to make it wonderful memory.

How long should I kiss?

Try to make each kiss last for at least three minutes at a time. Most people enjoy a kissing session to last for at least 20 minutes to a half hour. And the good news is you can have as many of these sessions as you want.

Remember to practice often!!!

How to banish bad breath-

Cigarettes and coffee can create a foul odor in your mouth. If your hooked, kick those habits for better breath.

Avoid sugarless mints, since artificial sweeteners can dry out your mouth.

Be sure to drink lots of water to keep your mouth moist.

Keep brushing and flossing.

Use breath mints if you feel the need.

27 ways to make a girl smile . . . . . by sasha 27 ways to make a girl smile . . . . .

*1 . Tell her she is beautiful, not hott, fine or ***y.
*2 . Hold her hand at any moment even if it just for a second.
*3 . Kiss her on the forehead.
*4 . Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
*5 . Always tell her you love her at any and all times.
*6 . When she is upset hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.
*7 . Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
*8 . Sing to her no matter how horrible your voice is.
*9 . Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
*10 . Write her notes. {she loves them}
*11 . Introduce her to family and friends as your girlfriend.
*12 . Play with her hair.
*13 . Pick her up, tickle her and play-wrestle with her.
*14 . Sit in the park and just talk to her.
*15 . Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, just tell her jokes.
*16 . Throw pebbles at her window in the middle of the night just because you missed her.
*17 . Let her fall asleep in your arms.
*18. Carve your names into a Tree.
*19 . If she's mad at you, kiss her.
*20 . Give her piggyback rides.
*21 . Bring her Flowers just because.
*22 . Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.
*23 . Look her in the eyes and smile.
*24 . Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.
*25 . Slow dance with her, even if there isn't any music playing.
*26 . Kiss her in the rain.
*27 . If your in love with her . . . Tell her.