Kissing Explained

A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are alone. This will help to avoid any unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations.
The best type of kiss is one that uses different variations...
such as starting with a small kiss, working into a French Kiss, maybe sucking on your partner's upper or lower lip...

And don't just leave kisses to the lips. Kiss their cheeks, their chin or their eyelids. This can be very seductive and romantic.

Basic Kissing Tips

Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath.
If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.
If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey.
And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.

French Kissing

French Kissing This is the most popular type of kiss. This involves touching your tongue with your partner's and it can be quite a pleasant experience. There are a few tips to create a great french kiss.

Open Lips - Open your lips over your partner's slightly more than you would during a regular kiss. This makes it easier to place your tongue in your partner's mouth. Tongue - Place the tip of your tongue on the tip of your partner's tongue. Do not force your tongue too far into their mouth. If you wish, you can play with their tongue by circling theirs with your own. Have fun with it. Explore.

Lips - You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue.

Suck Kissing This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.

Nip Kissing This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly can create a wonderful effect on your date. While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your date / partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you've kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your partner.

Surprise Kissing This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.

How to Have the Talk

Before you utter "Honey, we have to...," crib our convo notes. You can charm the pants off anyone with your finely honed sugar lips and defuse most potentially deadly showdowns with your razor-sharp wit. Still, somehow, when it comes time to initiate the relationship conversation, none of that makes a damn difference. You're left tongue-tied and nerve-racked. That's because that couple-status report inevitably puts you in the cliched nagging-woman-pointing-at-her-stopwatch position -- and him on the utmost defensive. Someone is bound to get freaked out, hurt or misled. Which is why we're here to help. Because the check-in is a necessary milestone in any growing relationship, you'll have to face the music at some point. We've come up with a plan for making the commitment conversation a lot easier on both of you -- and it's actually effective.

Flirt and Making Acquaintance

How to make acquaintance with an unfamiliar woman or man? It’s a perpetual problem. The article of the onlinedatingtip.com offers a few tips for people who are looking for their partner, how to attract the picked “victim’s” attention…

Walking in the midtown may become an adventure
Take a walk in the city center on a Saturday afternoon. Disguise yourself as a tourist and take a camera with you. If you don’t have one, borrow or buy a cheap disposable camera. If you catch sight of somebody you like turn to her and ask her to take a photo of you in front of a show-place but in a way that she’ll take the photo of you and not the background. Carry on and ask her if you could take a picture of her. This way you create an opportunity for a conversation. It might turn out that she is also alone and offers you to be your guide. The camera method has another advantage: it urges you to visit romantic places, museums, parks, where lots of singles spend their weekend afternoons. According to a professional photographer he is always successful in making interesting acquaintances if he has his camera with him. At the age of modern automatic cameras you don’t have to be a professional: take a snapshot of somebody and flirt with her.

Flirting at the university
You can attend either the lectures at the university or only the canteen, you’ll be able to flirt. University is a good place for flirting, because of the fact that a number of people gather there. If you catch sight of someone who interests you, simply ask her what lectures she attends. “Which year are you in? Do you have a determinate plan or do you study for the sake of entertainment?” The repertory of questions is infinite. You can recommend that you take a coffee break or go to library together. You may tell her how splendid books you have at home and ask her if she feels like looking at them.

Flirt while waiting line
The situation is advantageous because the ones in front of and behind you are waiting to see the same play, movie or exhibition as you. So the topic of the conversation is given. For example if you are waiting outside the movies you can turn to the lucky ones like this: “Have you heard what the director did at the premier?” At the end you’ll be sitting next to your new acquaintance at eat popcorn from the same bag.

Flirt in a cafe
At the table next to yours a pretty woman is reading her newspaper. Ask her if there’s something interesting in it. Her answer will probably be negative, for which you may reply: “Don’t you think that there should be a paper in which there are only good pieces of news?” This strategy can be applied on the way around as well, you can read out the titles or a few lines of the editorial to the lonely man sitting at the next table. Go to the café on Sunday mornings, it’s a convenient time to talk about life’s things.

Flirt in the park
You’re in a beautiful park, there are trees and birds, light and shade around you’re solving cross-words sitting on a bench. When you look up cogitatively you observe a handsome man rubbernecking on the other half of the bench. Mutter silently: “Hm … Aztecan sun-god … seven letters down.” Then turn directly to the attractive stranger: “Don’t you happen to know what the name of the Aztecan sun-god might be? Seven letters.” After you excited his curiosity he’ll approach you and your cross-words. You’re in for it. It’s going to be a pleasant afternoon. To your next walk in the park take some bird seeds with you. If you catch sight of a pretty passer-by, sprinkle some seeds toward her. Birds will troop around her, that’s for sure. Walk to her with an innocent face and address her: “It seems birds like you … And I know why!” Smile at her and introduce yourself to her. This is also a successful method!

If you go to the museum…
…don’t forget to visit the gift-shop or the restaurant of the museum. You can do other things as well in a museum than watching exhibition cases. Some people go there to have coffee. Why don’t you follow their example? It’s easy to enter upon a conversation. Topics seem to offer themselves: you can converse on the exhibits, artists, the building of the museum. Don’t forget about the gift-shop: it’s easy to make new friends among the many bric-a-bracs.

Exploit the intervals
If you go to theater, opera, to your favorite actor’s performance, don’t stay at your place during the intervals, but go to the lounge for a drink or a cake. If the audience are squeezing toward the buffet, step forward and take part in the conversation. The topic will probably be on today’s play or previous plays. Test your communicative skills and narrate a few stories about the lives of the scenic heroes: it’s possible that by the end of the play you’ll have shared the cheerful atmosphere of the play with your own hero/heroine.

The best place at a party is by the bar or the buffet
Why? Because people looking for some food or drink come and go all the time. If the clambake is held in a hotel you can relocate your residence next to the cloakroom, because the circulation is reasonable there as well: people longing for some fresh air or fleeting the tumult or even looking for love – it’s possible that you make new friends there. If you encounter some boring woman leave her with some polite excuse and find another busy place. Perhaps you should look around one more time before. Remember, you have decided to get to know as many people as possible tonight! If you encounter somebody you find attractive smile at her and ask her: “Wouldn’t you like to continue this conversation during dinner on Tuesday?” observe what type you deal with, what may interest her, use your illusions to suggest something that she will presumably accept. Dancing marathon? Marathon race? Old horror movies? Your attentiveness and politeness will surely attract your new acquaintance’s attention and curiosity and will be all afire with the desire to see you again. With your empressement and cordiality you will attract people wherever you may be.

Eat at the dining car if you’re traveling on a train
You can pack food for the trip and mumble on it alone, but why don’t you visit the dining car? Traveling may seem shorter there and you’ll have a great time, especially if you encounter interesting people. Perhaps your future one-and-only is traveling on exactly this train with you.

Dating Smarts You Must Have

There's so much potential for disaster, they should call it playing the

* First rule: Chemistry trumps all. Even if he talked too much about his hybrid car or had T-bone steak in his teeth the whole time, if his kiss made you melt, he gets a second date.
* On the flip side, we don't care if he's the hottest, richest, funniest, Orlando Bloomiest man ever. If smooching him gives you the creeps, cut your losses.
* After you finally hook up with a guy you found online in a coffee joint, it's fine to tell your friends "We met at a coffee joint." It's not even a lie (sort of)!
* You get to be superficial. If he's wearing a fanny pack or showing off butt cleavage, feign an emergency and bail. (Hint: Say "It's a woman thing." He won't ask for details.)
* A Cosmo girl doesn't go out with her ex-boyfriend's work rival just so it'll get back to him and make him crazy. She does go out with his work rival though if she had a crush on him anyway.
* A man who makes every conversation sexual from the get-go isn't trying to seduce you, he's trying to shock you. Don't take the bait. Your job isn't to prove to him that you can be one of the guys; it's his job to be a gentleman.
* Any time a friend offers to set you up, make sure to ask her what she thinks you have in common with the guy -- besides that you're both single.
* Heads up: If he spends even part of the evening responding to work emails on his crackberry, he probably wouldn't make the most attentive boyfriend.
* Then again, if you spend even part of the evening on emails, don't expect him to call for a second date.
* Beware the boor who asks questions just so that he can give answers. Him: "What's the coolest place you've ever traveled to?" You: "Oh, probably Mex--" Him: "My favorites are Africa, London, Iceland, Costa Rica...."
* Lots of people are between jobs, but a guy who cites The Man as his reason for it may be in arrested development.
* If the next day you can't remember anything interesting or clever he said and you guys weren't drinking, you're probably not that into him.
* Maybe he's just being polite, but when a guy offers you a breath mint, always take it, just in case.
* Dating is supposed to be fun, not a chore. If you find yourself daydreaming middate about watching Law and Order reruns at home, give yourself a break.
* If you've had a good time, compliment his planning ("I loved playing air hockey!"). It subtly invites him to call for date two and gives him a chance to ask right then, if he's bold.
* Don't stress that first-kiss moment. Smile, say good-bye, and squeeze his hand, letting your fingers linger. He'll either make a move or he won't, and you'll get an awkwardness-free exit.
* Another sexy way to make him ache for date two? Casually comment on his good-night kiss, like "Mmm, you're good at that." He won't stop wondering what other talents of his you'll like.

The Trick to Meeting Guys

Finding a date-worthy man is tough, but you could be making it harder on yourself. Here, five common goofs.

By Jennifer Benjamin

Photo: Anna Palma
You're hot, you're fun, you have a cool job and a big circle of friends — in other words, you're the whole package. Then why the hell can't you meet a guy? "Often, women subconsciously give off 'keep away' signals," says psychotherapist Rhonda Findling, author of The Dating Cure. Well, we've pinpointed some of the mistakes you might be making and found ways for you to remedy the situation ASAP. You hang with a big group of girls. When going on a manhunt, you may feel better bringing backup. Problem is, surrounding yourself with a posse makes you unapproachable. "It's intimidating for a guy," says Findling. "He's afraid of being rejected in front of an audience." To make yourself available, go out with just one wingwoman or separate from the crew and work the room solo.

Dealing with Rejection

Q: i ask this guy out and he said no. after that i thought he just said no because he didn't know me so i ask him on a date. my question is did i do something wrong?

A: You did nothing wrong. Women tend to find answers as to why they were rejected in one way or another. If she can't get the answers, she starts to assume that there must be something wrong with her. Why must you torture yourself on this? Don't take his rejection personally. Respect his decision and move on, go out and be the strongest that you can be. Remember that it is impossible for everyone to say �yes� to everything, but someone out there will say �yes� to you.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: I like a girl very much. I saw her one day in my Univ campus, found out her mail id and added her on YM and chatted her for some days.then she gave me her cell number and I call her now and talk sometimes. Umm ... but she never gives me a call and doesnt even reply to my sms. but she talks to me whenever I call her and she talks pretty nicely. I was thinking of askin her out coz we have never met. But I am afraid that may she will refuse. IS there any way how i can attract her to me?? and i am still confused coz she gives mixed signals.

A: Dont be afraid to take a risk. First, have a plan in mind. Call her when you have a definite plan and time for the date. Have a friendly conversation before to ask her out. After talking for a few minutes, ask something like "I was thinking of going see a movie next weekend, would you like to come?" or "Would you like to get a drink together"? Just be confident and be yourself! If she likes you she will go out on a date with you. If she says no, ask if there is a scheduling conflict or if she is simply not interested to go out with you.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: There is this girl in my class I like I have talked to her a couple times and she has responed and said hi back to me I would like to get to know her and ask her out eventually how should I go about doing this and should I ask her out or talk to her more and if so about what

A: Get to know her. Find out about the activities and hobbies she likes. The more you know about her interests, the more things you will have to talk about. Approach this girl and engage her in friendly conversation. Say "Hi", tell her your name and compliment her. Ask her out for something specific if she's demonstrating interest. Maybe for a movie, or a hike in the park. Remember, when you are ready to ask her out, just find the right time and place to ask.

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How to Ask a Girl Out

Q: I have a gal at my workplace, we both are on same floor but different processes, we are completely strangers for each others except for the fact that we are on same floor, I like her n want to ask her out but I dont want rejection, I want her to accept, so I want to know how do I approach her n how do I ask her out without getting to hear no, so I need help regarding that

A: Asking a girl out is one of the hardest things to do. By doing this you are letting yourself become vulnerable to rejection. The worst thing can happen is that she say no. Everyone gets rejected one time in their life. But, if you dont ask her out you will never know if she could say yes. The first thing you need to do is figure out what you want to ask the girl out for. Your choice will be important because she might actually want to go out with you, but she might just not be interested in the activity you chose. Approach her, Say "Hi" and compliment her. However, try to avoid complimenting her skirt or dress, she'll think you're staring. After you have been talking for a while, say something like "Let's get take a coffee together." If she is interested, she will respond in the positive, but also her tone will be positive. Remember, be yourself and confident.

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How to Ask a Girl to a High School Graduation Party

Q: my question is how to date in a graduation high school party the girl who me i love

A: Make sure the girl you want to ask is not taken! Choose a quiet location and an appropriate time to ask the question. Come right out and ask her, "Do you go to the graduation party?" If she give you a positive answer ask her "Would you like we go to the graduation party together?" If you don't really know her try talking to her more before the party. Find out her interests and what kind of things you have in common. Remember, sometimes a "no" is inevitable. It happens to everyone. The best thing to do is to smile at her and tell her you understand.

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How to Ask Someone on a Date

Q: i recently received a phone call and it was the wrong number. i made some silly jokes to her (heather) and called her back about 30 minutes later. well she asked me if she could call me and she did later that night. we have now talked on the phone for a few days now. and im confused about what my next move should be. i just recently seperated from my wife after 10 years and im out of touch with the new world of dating. I have no idea what heather looks like and my mind is going crazy. i havent felt this way in a very long time. any suggestions? i do not want to be shallow if im not attracted to her. please help

A: if you want to go out with her, call her and ask her out. Have a plan in mind; know your schedule and have an idea to suggest. Meet casually for a brief time. If that goes well, suggest a more formal date. A first date should be something that you like to do. Do not pick something you hate just because you think your partner will enjoy it.

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How to Find a Chat Room for Dating

Q: Is it impossible to find a date through the chat rooms?

A: Online dating has unlimited possibilities. You should search on major search engine such as Google, Yahoo! or MSN, then find a room where the people are friendly and their interests are similar to yours. You should read their personal profiles and avoid rooms where sexual comments.

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Overcoming Shyness

Q: Iv'e got sord of a complicated question. Here's the deal I am very interested in this young lady that works at my local bank. A couple of years ago she flirted with me and although I welcomed her attention I did not pursue her for two reasons. The first reason, I was not ready for a relationship at the time. The second reason which prevents me from meeting many women is that I am shy and often cannot think of what to say to connect with women. To make a long story short now I am ready for a relationship however I am still very shy. The dilemma I am facing with this young lady is after she flirted with me a couple of years ago I never really said much to her since then because of my shyness. I see her at the bank at least once a week and we make eye contact sometimes but we rarely speak. The main reason why we don't speak is because I try to cover up my shyness by acting like I don't care. But even though we hardly speak I don't get the impression that she would totally reject me if I mustered up the courage to talk to her, I feel like she has at least left the door cracked. I still believe she is attracted to me but at this point I just don't know how to approach her since it's been two years since she really showed clear interest in me. I like her disposition so much I am not willing to let my shyness cripple me this time, but at this point what do I say to her? how do I approach her? Will she think I'm weak because I waited so long to approach her? Or maybe by now she has a boy friend. It just feels akward. Please Sania give some advice as to how I can go about this. I also want to mention that I do not come in direct contact with her because she is not a teller at the bank she is often behind a desk busy with customers which even makes it more difficult to approach her. Any suggestions or advice would be very helpful. Thanks, Lamar

A: Getting over one's shyness may be tough but it is possible. Try leaving her a note inviting her for a drink or coffee after work. Put in the note that you would be disappointed if she could not make it. If you are having trouble holding a conversation with her, you could start by giving her an honest compliment. You have to find a common ground in which to begin. Start with a talking point like sports, movies, books, favorite class, whatever the two of you find interesting and go from there. Make yourself feel confident. Good luck!

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What to Wear on a First Date

Q: What should you wear on a 1st date?

A: You should dress neatly. Wear clothes that fit you well and show off your best assets. The key to dressing for a date is to let your personality shine through. Another thing to remember when getting ready for a first date is that you should get a haircut and be sure to shave.